Evaluating The Love Bank

Blake and I have a wonderful relationship.  Most days I couldn’t be happier.  But as all married people find out we go through seasons where things just are not the best.  We let life get in the way of appreciating and loving each other the way we are supposed to.  This week we decided to do a little something to help build are relationship.  We went to the bookstore and picked up a little devotional called Devotions for Couples by Patrick Morley

We have really enjoyed the book.  It is supposed to be a 60 day study but we enjoy it so much that we read 2 or 3 a night.  Just a few things we have read about so far are how we each have a love bank account.  It can be overflowing, half full, or almost empty.  We make deposits and withdraws from each others bank accounts on a daily basis by doing thoughtful things that make one feel good or by doing unthoughtful things that make one unhappy.  When we are overflowing or near that it is easier to handle the little things but if we are near empty everything is hard to handle.  We thought this was a great analogy to help be more thoughtful of how each other feels and reacts to things.  

Another thing that we realized is that we are not praying for each other as often as we should.  Like if the weather is bad Blake will pray for me that I get to work safe but if the weather is clear he won’t pray for my safety as often.  I am guilty of praying for him when he is stressed out but not praying as much if he is happy.  We decided that we are going to make some prayer journals.  We will keep track of all the different things we need to pray for and set a time each night to pray.

Overall we are having lots of fun with our book!  We are laughing and talking about things.  I think everyone should find something like this to do with their husband!  Your marriage will be very blessed and your love bank will be full!    


a humbling day

Today I had such a humbling day!  One thing I love about my job is it allows me to spend my whole day doing whatever I would like as long as the phones get answered; that means I get lots of time to do bible study!  Friday’s the phones are always a bit quiter so I really get time to spend close to God. 

My day went like this today: I sent an email to my mentor from TLT, in this I discussed some of my frustrations and how I need to do better handling them.  Then I spent time reading some blogs.  I really enjoy reading blogs by other Christians who always have something so profound to say.  My apologies that my blog is not so profound but rather mostly about my silly dog.  One blog that I came across just touched my heart so much!  My heart went out to this family as a read their blog about the beautiful daughter they had that was not expected to live very long had she even made it to her birth.  As I read the heart wrenching journey of this mother and her family I felt God humbling me.  (you would think I would avoid things at work that would make me cry seeing that I answer phones and sit at the front door)  I had just been fussing to my mentor about my (so called) burdens.  How horrible I felt about how badly I handle my frustrations and stress after reading how strong this mother was knowing every day of her baby’s life was probably the last.  I can’t imagine.  I feel so low and no good because I have gotten so upset lately over things like the small space we are currently living in and how slowly our house is coming along.  How could I be so ungrateful??? 

Then to top things off I went to do my study for the day and the days title was The Discontented Heart, go figure!  “I hear you loud and clear up there, God!”  I humbly did my study and thanked God for speaking so clearly to me today!  I have failed miserably in much of my spiritual warfare lately, however my study today and baby Copeland and her mother have provided me with great conviction and encouragement.

Not that I speak from want, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. Philippians 4:11-12  


John Piper in his book, “A Hunger for God,” says this, “God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in Him.”   

*This is a book I need to finish! 

I want to hear from you!

So I know there are a handful of loyal readers to my blog.  If you would share with me what you are studying and learning in the scriptures right now! 

I guess I will go first since this is my blog…

I am learning just how important prayer really is.  I have always prayed and talked to God but not the way I am now.  I have recently started looking at how great God really is.  This has caused me to spend more time rejoicing and praising God for who He is and what He has done.  This has also caused me to seek repentance.  So many sins I have overlooked because I felt they weren’t a big deal.  I mean small things like my daily attitude.  I realize now it isn’t such a small thing because it is still a sin.  Everyday that I was being hateful or moody I was trying to justify my reason for it.  I thought I deserved to act that way because of an affliction that I had.  But the truth is, is that I don’t have a right!  Those little sins still nailed Jesus to the cross just as did my bigger sins.  So my gap I created by not going to God in repentance is getting smaller.  I seek repentance on all the little things now.  And since I am humbling myself I see God as the great God he is.  So I sing His praises all through the day.  And then I remain happier and I am not so angry or moody!  Do you see the chain of events that is happening here!?!

“See, the Sovereign LORD comes with power, and his arm rules for him. See, his reward is with him, and his recompense accompanies him.  He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.  Who has measured the waters in the hollow of his hand, or with the breadth of his hand marked off the heavens?  Who has held the dust of the earth in a basket, or weighed the mountains on the scales and the hills in a balance?  Who has understood the mind of the LORD, or instructed him as his counselor?  Whom did the LORD consult to enlighten him, and who taught him the right way? Who was it that taught him knowledge or showed him the path of understanding?  Surely the nations are like a drop in a bucket; they are regarded as dust on the scales; he weighs the islands as though they were fine dust.  Lebanon is not sufficient for altar fires, nor its animals enough for burnt offerings.  Before him all the nations are as nothing; they are regarded by him as worthless and less than nothing.  To whom, then, will you compare God?  What image will you compare him to?”  Isaiah 40: 10-18

Please take the time to share what you are learning!